with Barbie Kalev, PhD
Private mentorship gives you the individual attention and space to get underneath what’s happening, understand what’s really driving it, and make meaningful change in the life you’re actually living.
You have something specific you want to work on.
Apply for Private Mentorship →Maybe there’s a pattern you keep finding yourself in. A conversation you haven’t been able to have. A decision you can’t seem to make. A relationship that needs something different from you. A way you’ve been working or living that no longer fits.
Maybe you’re taking on too much and overriding yourself even though you know better. Maybe you’ve changed, but parts of your life haven’t caught up with who you are now.
Or maybe nothing is terribly wrong. There is simply something you want to understand more deeply, move through, change, or approach differently.
You don’t need to have it all figured out before we begin.
You just need to know there’s something you’re ready to work on.
Seeing the pattern and being able to choose differently when it matters are not the same thing.
Together, we get underneath what’s actually happening.
We look at what you’re experiencing, what you’re doing, what you believe, what your body is telling you, and the patterns, expectations, identities, or old rules that may be shaping what happens next.
Then we work with what we find.
Not simply so you understand yourself better, but so that understanding begins to change the way you move through your actual life—the conversation, the decision, the relationship, the boundary, the way you work, the way you rest, or the choice you make when the moment arrives.
As our work progresses, the way you live begins to reflect who you actually are now—and who you’re becoming.
You express what is true.
You say what you actually think, feel, want, and need instead of automatically censoring yourself or managing everyone else’s response.
You trust what you know.
You recognize the information coming from your body as well as your mind. You spend less time overthinking, researching, polling other people, or looking outside yourself for the answer.
You have greater capacity for the life you want to live.
You recognize when to move and when to rest. You have more access to your energy instead of continually pushing past your limits or overriding what your body is telling you.
You honor yourself in the choices you make.
You notice your wants, needs, limits, and boundaries—and they begin to matter in what you actually do, not simply in what you know.
And perhaps most importantly, you trust yourself.
Your choices, relationships, work, and the way you spend your time begin to feel increasingly like your own.
This is the closest way to work together.
There is no predetermined curriculum and no one-size-fits-all process. This is what makes one-on-one work especially powerful. We begin with what is happening in your life right now and what you want to change or address.
You bring the situations, patterns, decisions, relationships, transitions, or questions that are actually showing up. We slow them down, look at what’s underneath them, and pay attention to what you may not be able to see from inside the experience.
The body is always part of our work because it gives us access to information that thinking alone can’t always reach. From there, our work may draw from identity and pattern work, somatics and the nervous system, embodiment, relationships, leadership, business, or other perspectives that are useful to what you’re navigating.
There isn’t a predetermined path because the work follows you.
And the work doesn’t end when our session does. You take what we uncover into your actual life—the conversation, the decision, the boundary, the different choice—and we continue working with what happens from there.
Client Wins
One client was someone who always went the extra ten miles. She could see that she was overextending herself, but by the time she realized it, she’d already overridden herself again.
Through our work, she learned to recognize the moment before she overextended—and make a different choice. Rest no longer makes her anxious. She has energy for hiking, time with new friends, and weekends with her husband and family. She describes herself as genuinely happier.
Another client owns a company with 15 employees and realized she had slowly allowed everyone else’s needs to run the show.
Our work helped her set clearer boundaries, reclaim how she wanted to lead her business, and make choices that included taking care of herself—not just everyone around her.
The circumstances are different. That’s the nature of this work. We begin with your life, pay attention to what’s actually happening, and work with what will help you move through it differently.
Dedicated time to work deeply with what is happening in your life right now and what you want to change or address.
Two each month, used when you need support between our sessions—when something comes up, you’re in the middle of making a different choice, or you want perspective on what you’re navigating.
When something from my body of work would support what we’re working on, I’ll bring it into our work. You won’t be handed a library of material to work through.
The work doesn’t stop when the session ends.
The conversation happens. You make the decision. You set the boundary. You try something different. You notice what happens in your body and in your life.
And we work with what happens next.
Fill out the application below and tell me a little about what you’d like to work on. If it feels like we’re a fit, we can decide together—without pressure—which level of support makes the most sense for you.
$6,500
For something specific you’re ready to work on deeply and directly.
Three months gives us time to get underneath a particular situation, pattern, relationship dynamic, decision, transition, or area of your life—and begin changing how you move through it.
Your mentorship includes:
$12,000
For deeper patterns, larger transitions, or changes you want support living through—not simply understanding.
Six months gives us more time to work with what unfolds as you begin making different choices in your actual life. We can see what changes, what gets challenged, what becomes clearer, and what else reveals itself as the work progresses.
Your mentorship includes:
Looking for a more intensive level of private support?
I occasionally create more customized mentorship arrangements based on what you’re navigating. You can indicate that on your application and we can discuss what would best support you.
Private mentorship begins with a short application so I can learn a little about you, what you’d like to work on, and whether I’m the right person to support you.